Hello,

I'm new here and i need advise. My husband started to do Meth last year. He would lie to me and tell me that he was not using but the proof was everywhere. We just recently moved and i thought that things would get better but they only got worst. The trust is gone and i have to hide my cay keys and my purse at night so he don't take off with my car. I got my own bank account which he has no accuse to and just yesterday i kicked him out of the house. But i'm scared for him because i still love him and want him to get help. I know you can't help someone that does not want it but was i right to kick him out?, Do i just give up on someone who once was my bestfriend. Is there hope?

 Hi: I am new on this group but sadly have a lot of experience with a meth user in the family. I know you want to get him help but so often the users do not want to be helped. My experience is that they won't get any help until something makes them hit a wall. Maybe you turning him out will do that but don't hold your breath. First thing is to care for yourself. Find some local support if you can.

Wish you well

Oceanww

You did nothing wrong by kicking him out. There is a big difference between living with him and not trying to help him. I would say that if he is not dangerous to you, you should try to get him help the best way you know how. But you have to look out for yourself as well. Don't put yourself at risk if he dangerous. Forums are great but be sure to discuss this issue with a trusted friend or professional to get different perspectives. Remember to keep yourself safe at all times.

i cant speak for anybody but me and i just want you to know that there is hope but only in the person that believes in it.

if you believe in him its one thing but he has to believe in hiself.

does he want to get better? I was addicted to meth for only a short time but it still has a hold on me and i struggle with it everyday. I will pray for your husband and hope for the both of you to overcome this powerful mountain. I pray that the two of you can work thru this and not allow it to destroy wat you guys have built. The only thing that i can suggest for you to try is that you stick by his side as much as your heart will allow you to. And not to get religous on you but pray. Its help me so much and he will be so grateful for you and all your effort.

I've said this before, and I don't mean to sound like a broken record, but you really should read Beautiful Boy by David Shef. It will give you some comfort knowing you're not alone.

Please visit my blog, too for insight and some helpful advice.

www.thenext24.blogspot.com